7 ASKING FOR IT

At this point, you may think you could be completely uninhibited with the thought of peeing with your lover, but you don't think you could ever persuade your lover to participate. How do you broach the topic?

I can only tell you what worked for me. Pick an intimate but relaxed moment. Begin the conversation by talking about how much you enjoy touching your lover. Tell your lover about the parts of his or her body you find beautiful and delicious to touch. Do a little touching. Encourage talk about fantasies and dreams. Try to get your lover to reveal one of his or her own secret fantasies. Whatever your lover's fantasy might be, try to find something exciting in it. If you genuinely find it exciting, let your lover know.

Explain to your lover how much you love his or her lingam or yoni, how sometimes you focus on it and can't think of anything else. This moment would be a good time to kiss it or lick it or suck it or all of the above. Tell your lover that you love everything about his or her lingam or yoni -- that everything it does excites you. Even the water that pours from it excites you. It excites you because of the person it comes from. Suggest that perhaps someday you'd like to get closer to it -- to touch it or maybe even taste it. And phrase it that way -- perhaps someday. You don't want to be applying pressure. If there's hesitancy, give oral sex again. Tell your lover how much you enjoy giving oral sex. Say that you enjoy it primarily because of who is receiving it. Tell your lover that you enjoy it with him or her so much you would do it even while the spring was flowing. Whenever your lover indicates verbally or by body language that he or she is uncomfortable with what you're suggesting, issue a complement that is off the subject. Hug and kiss and nibble ears. Do whatever it takes to make your lover comfortable again. Comforting speaks volumes louder than begging.

If you do all these things and have made no apparent progress, put it aside for a few weeks or months, then try the same thing again. You may have made more progress than you thought. Your lover may just need time to get used to the idea. Allow as much time as it takes.