2 WHY DO IT?

Why would you want to come into contact with your lover's urine, and why would your lover want to come into contact with yours? Urine is waste, isn't it?

If you are in love and that love has blossomed into a sexual relationship, then you are in love with your lover's spirit and body. You love every part of that person. And you hold your lover's lingam or yoni in special awe. It is an altar for your worship -- the bringer and receiver of the greatest of joys you can share together. When you close your eyes, you sometimes see your partner's loins in your mind's eye, touch them with your mind's fingertips, smell them with your mind's nose, taste them with your mind's tongue. Now if only you could get past that time many years ago when somebody told you, "No child -- that's dirty!"

And why do we accept this attitude that our lingams and yonis are dirty (and don't deny that at some level that attitude has infiltrated you)? Part of it is that most cultures of the world choose to hide those parts from public view. But that doesn't make them dirty. It only makes them private. The other reason is that our urine springs from there. And we must deposit our urine away from where we eat and sleep. Why? Because urine exposed to the microorganisms of the environment soon emits ammonia, and ammonia is nasty. But food left exposed turns into nasty stuff too, and food certainly isn't dirty.

Urine also has a peculiar smell that we seem to instinctively shrink from. That response is in the interest of our survival. Our bodies balance our dissolved minerals by eliminating excesses. We also need to rid ourselves of a compound called urea (urea, incidentally is in no way responsible for the smell and has a cool, pleasant taste to it). We instinctively know from the odor that, no matter how thirsty we are, drinking urine will render our elimination strategy useless.

None of these things make urine dirty. It is nearly sterile when it leaves our bodies, and, barring our having consumed something toxic, it contains no toxins. It has, in fact, been used as disinfectant for wounds during war time. It is most certainly cleaner than that bacteria farms we grow in our mouths. And as for the smell, we shall see later on that there are simple ways to minimize it, along with the dissolved minerals and urea.

What I've said so far are reasons you should not recoil as much as perhaps you do from contact with urine. Nothing so far has been toward why you might like to seek it. So let's try that. First, water is fun to play with and play in. Sex is fun too. Why not combine them? Surely you and you lover have splashed each other in the bath or while swimming and enjoyed it -- perhaps even worked yourselves into sexual excitement doing it. Wet lovemaking is the same thing, but with a splashing more directly connected to your bodies.

If your lover is a woman, your love for her yoni is not just for its flesh, but also for the wonderful secretions that flow from it whenever she is aroused. Even her menstral fluids, though messy, are a part of her and exciting in their own way. If your lover is a man, your love for his lingam includes loving his semen, and wanting it to contact you and become part of you.

Your love for your lover's yoni or lingam can also include a fascination with the one function she or he has been using it for since birth. If your lover is a woman, picture her yoni with a urine stream passing from it. If your lover is a man, picture his lingam in the same way. Don't think about touching yet. And don't think about its destination either. Just picture it and think of it as a fountain of love. If you are heterosexual, you will also sense the mystery, wondering how it feels to your lover to issue forth the spring in this way that is unknowable to you.

If you are a man, you know that, although the sensation of ejaculation and the sensation of urination are very different, the sensation of liquid passing through your urethra is the same for both of these, and one reminds you of the other. If you are a woman, you know that your urethra opens among the most sexually sensitive tissues of your body. When you are aroused, can you urinate without being conscious of that?

Now consider that the liquid that daily pours from your lover is warm and part of him or her and pours from that most special of places. It contains fluid from your lover's blood and the sweat of your lover's soul. Have you never imagined what it would be like to feel it splashing against your skin? And consider how satisfying emptying your own bladder feels. You start out with an urgent full feeling, you relax your lingam or yoni, you feel a satisfying tickle down there, and with no effort at all you feel sated. Have you never imagined sharing that simple pleasure with your lover? And what about the joy of feeling your fountains mix as they pass from each of you, then warm and tickle both your skins?

Perhaps you are excited over such thoughts, but still don't think you would try them. It takes mental preparation in order to enjoy such acts as much as you might enjoy thoughts of them. Your cultural aversion to them has been with you all your life. It is easy to put aversions aside when you are only thinking about the act, much harder when you're really doing it. But if thinking about it excites you in any way, read on.

Aversions you might have about sharing your lover's spring are the last barriers between your genitals and your lover's. When you have overcome it -- and you can -- it will wash away all the hidden notions you might still have of your partner's sex organs being dirty. Joining in embrace and flowing in each other's arms will seem as natural and enjoyable a way of sharing your sexualities as anything you may be doing now. And it will be something special between you that few others experience.

One final note. Many of us at some time in our lives will find ourselves having to forgive a lover for wandering into the arms of another. These things happen. Since the sharing of genital fountains (or any other specialized sex practice) is something that requires an intimacy and trust developed over time, it is unlikely that your lover will ever betray that part of your relationship to any interloper. Your sexual relationship will still hold something secret and unsullied upon which you can begin the healing.